The #1 Job Hunt Mistake You’re Making

Studies estimate that 70 – 85% of jobs are found through networking while according to Forbes less than 5% of jobs are found through job boards.

Most people spend tons of time on the job boards which is a big waste of time. So you NEED to network but don’t worry, it doesn’t have to mean going to millions of networking events and giving your elevator speech 100s of times.

You already have a network you’ve been building for years, but to get their help you have to let them know you need it.

Send an email to:

  • your family
  • high school friends
  • old teachers
  • or anyone that you have or have had a genuine relationship

The email needs to outlines what kind of job you’re looking for, where you want to live and ask if they know anyone in that field that they would be willing to connect your with. Your aunt’s best friend from high school might work at the company you want to get hired at.

Warm referrals are much more effective than cold calls and after sending the email out you’ll have a few people to hop on the phone with or meet for coffee! And soon you’ll be hearing about opportunities long before they make it to the job board!

Need help writing the initial email to friends and family? Email me at to set up a mini-session with me where we can craft your email!

Your dream job is coming!

Talk soon,


Sometimes I feel lonely…

I’ve been writing a lot about career coaching stuff. About what you can do and how I can help. And I believe it. I believe that you are meant to bring out your gifts and touch even more people than you already are.

But I’ve been craving to write about me. About my life. About how life is hard sometimes and how sometimes I don’t know how to make it better.

I’ve been feeling lonely as I try to navigate the dating world. Dating is like applying to a million jobs and you get some rejections but you get some interviews. And sometimes you even get a couple of shifts or work for a month. But then just when you think it’s going to work out, just when you start to think, I’m going to like it here, it gets torn away.

Sometimes I tear it away. Sometimes he tears it away. Sometimes he ghosts and leaves me questioning my judgment.

I thought he was a stand up guy. I thought he was direct. I thought he would have the confidence to say, “I don’t think this is going to work.”

But he doesn’t. My last text to him reads, “Frustrated. If you don’t want to hang out again, please be direct about it.” He doesn’t respond.

I’m okay with ghosting if it’s just one date. If the first date doesn’t go well, I encourage it. But after multiple dates I want something. Some acknowledgement.

It throws me and a part of me wants to give up. To collect some good single friends and hold them close. Make a pact that we’ll never date anyone so we’ll always have time for each other.

That part is jealous of my friends that are in relationships. Making up stories that their lives are perfect and easy. That they’re having the #BestSummerEver and I’m alone.

I talk to my sister on the phone one night and cry. She listens and really hears my struggle. I wake up the next morning feeling better.

I see how it’s easy to see someone else’s life as perfect and easy when really it’s probably not. They probably have their own set of challenges even if they don’t post them all over Instagram.

And that morning I’m able to start to see and be grateful for the beautiful parts of my life. My beautiful home. Friends that hold me close. Beautiful dances, walks in the park. Evolving relationships with both my mother and father.

My life is full.

And it’s not that the loneliness and hurt completely disappear but I have room for them. I can let the loneliness in and it won’t carry me away.

You can feel lonely when you’re in a crowded room. The moments when you feel seen or understood are precious.

3 Ways to Prevent Burnout


It was my first time on a film set. The scene was simple, a black backdrop, a stool, bright lights. There was the air of excitement. The girls being interviewed for the documentary were nervous.

They each took turns in front of the camera talking about their lives, what it was like living at home. There was some violence but they were loved by their parents. Then they talked about being taken away from their families by the Children’s Aid Society and being moved from foster home to foster home. They missed their family, friends and communities. They didn’t feel loved. Eventually they turned to drugs and alcohol, usually at age 12 or 13.

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Exhausted at work? 3 Ways to Get Your Energy Back Without Quitting Your Job

We’ve all had jobs that drained us, whether it’s for a day, a week, a month or longer. You might get home so tired you don’t even want to do the things you love or spend quality time with your friends, your kids, your partner. It sucks!

But the good news there are three small things you can do to get your energy back without quitting your job!

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What Strengths were You Born with?


Jenny sat at the back of the bus, her nose buried in her Nancy Drew book. She was a bit of an ackward kid and didn’t fit in with the other girls. She liked to play while rough while they pretended to bake and played with dolls.

She loved this book and was reading furiously. A young woman in the book was taken hostage and suddenly Jenny thought, “What if that happened to me?” She looked over her shoulder and stared at the car behind the bus craning her neck to get a look at the driver. It was a woman in frumpy dress and pearl. “Not someone who would take a hostage,” Jenny thought..

She looked around at the other kids on the bus and thought, “These guys wouldn’t have a clue about how to take a hostage.” But then the bus driver, Sam, caught her eye. He was wearing jeans and a plaid shirt. He had a moustache. This was the kind of guy that could take a hostage…

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